01 January 2013

Not New Year's Resolutions

I tend not to do resolutions - too much pressure :).  Instead, I try to make some goals that can be...flexible.  So, in no particular order, this year's goals are:

1. Finish my Master's without killing myself: I have six classes left so I should graduate at the end of Fall 2013. While I still want to do well (ahem...very well, I know me), I am going to try to relax a little and not spend three-four hours studying and paper-writing every Saturday at Guillermo's. I will take a little time for myself on the weekends and a little extra time for the Spousal Unit versus the weekends only being for school, chores and grocery shopping.

2. Sensibly keep my weight off and not give in to the voice in my head: I have six more pounds to go and then I will be at my goal of 180 (60 pounds gone). Then I start the rest of the phases that will tell if my pancreas has reset itself to function as it should and I learn what I can/cannot eat. While the Pennsylvania Dutch/Amish stoicism gifted to me by my ancestors can certainly be helpful at times (i.e., having a goal and working towards it), it is a double-edged sword in that I have an excellent ability to berate myself should I not do EXACTLY what I think should be done to the exact specifications in my head. I have already told my mother that I do NOT want a scale (because I will fixate on the number on the scale) and I think she...well, not "understood" but knows I'm serious. I will continue to eat the way I need to and get back to exercising (YAY!) when I am released to do so.

3. Get back to posting to P365 more. This last year has been...well, it's been. Posting to P365 is part of a larger goal to remember there are other things out there and stop being so internally focused on the narrow world of school and the SU. I'd like to post at least twice a month and comment on other folks' pictures as well.

4. Find some good Bible-study type books and get back in the habit. My quiet time has taken a bit of a hit over the past year. Mostly I just pray in the mornings. Sometimes it's a good conversation and sometimes it's "Dude, I got nothin' here.". Like any other genre, however, there are good books and there is some absolute crap out there and it can get exhausting to sift through it. But I will find something and use it.

5. Continue knitting (yeah, I know...so hard :P). I have four specific projects that I want to complete: a shawl for my mom, a dress for my other granddaughter, Em, the hitchhiker scarf, and a wrap.

6. Continue working with our couples counselor and also try to not let the SU's alcohol abuse permeate my life to such an extent. While I can be cautious and I have the right to ask questions, I have to learn to separate the events from the person and make some kind of mental/emotional dividing line for myself.  Otherwise, I am going to make myself crazy with paranoia and constantly trying to guess whether or not I am being told the truth.  Under this heading also falls "working to continue to love him (love being an active verb)" and "be the wife I am called to be".

7.  Clean my bedroom and get rid of clothes that I don't need/use anymore.

8.  Move!  Dependent on our tax return, we should have enough money to be able to pay for a move to a new apartment complex sometime between January-April.  Praying that God will take care of that as well as open up a ground-floor apartment that has what we need in the complex we think we should move to.


  1. Excellent goals! As you know I'm working on some myself. It's kind of daunting though since I'm doing 50 (but I have longer because my birthday isn't until March 2014).

    I want to see a picture of the dress you're making. And the hitchhiker scarf. I just spent almost $50 at Michael's on yarn (! There goes my reduce debt goal!).

    Boy it's so true that paranoia will destroy ya. I just had to let go & trust that my guy will turn himself around like he says he will. I can't do it for him, and I'm not going to start measuring the bourbon left in the bottle! Fortunately I have a personality type that makes it easy to step outside the situation & let it be. Unfortunately, I do that by eating any stress that might come my way. Sigh.

  2. I am impressed with your well thought through goals with specifics. Phil 4:13 and Prov 3:5-6
    Something we do is listen to the Bible read daily. Check out the Daily Audio Bible podcasts. It's a neat community.